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How to ruin relationships & destroy churches
By Stephen Bloom | December 1, 2009
1. When someone wrongs you, hurts you, offends you, HANG ONTO IT. Refuse to let it go.
2. When someone wrongs you, hurts you, offends you, COMPLAIN TO EVERYBODY ELSE. Lash out, gossip, gripe.
3. When you find out someone has a problem with you, IGNORE IT. Pretend everything’s fine.
4. When you have an enemy, HATE THEM. Hope they die, or at least suffer. A lot.
Topics: conflict resolution |
December 21st, 2009 at 12:19 pm
I was saved 16 months ago while at one of the biggest church’s in San Jose Calif. I zoomed in the Lord at an alarming rate. Eventually I ran into a really weird situation with a pastor which lead to me being kicked out of the church indiffently. I know the bible like the back of my hand and there are dozens of things they have and are doing wrong to me. They will not tell me what my sin is so I can repent nor do they tell me what part of the bible they are following to support there actions toward me. The whole thing has hurt me beyound words and has trickeled over into my life when I try and be a part of another church and has hurt my friendships with other belivers even though what they believe about me is false. Can you help me? I really am not looking for you to quote me a bunch of scriptures that I already know and I do pray for them already. I am looking for help perhaps in a practical way. The level of hurt I experience over this is beyound words and is destroying my faith a little here and a little there. Its like these people are from another planet and not the Kingdom of Heaven or the Body of Christ.
Ron
January 22nd, 2010 at 3:13 am
It is easy to destroy relationship that to build one:)